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Why doesn’t the adult industry fulfil its role in the society? How is it possible that the adult industry which turns billions a year worldwide leaves so much sexual deprivation, violence, and harassment worldwide? How can it be that men seem to be more deprived of sex than ever at the time of the biggest adult industry it has ever been and at the age of extreme sexual liberation? Or has it always been the case, but we now hear more of it? This paradox doesn’t make sense… Or does it if we look closer? 

What’s wrong with the society? Why do younger and younger men call for adult services? Shouldn’t young men get sex naturally the most easily due to their vitality, rich social lives, and charm? Why do boys as young as eight watch porn online? Or why do more and more men of all ages buy sex by text message? Doesn’t it fly in the face of intimacy? Wanting to be intimate with another human being? How will men resolve sexual deprivation if they don’t even want to speak to the people with whom they want to have sex? Why do men still assault women when they can easily buy sex? Where’s this world going?

There’re solid reasons why the adult industry doesn’t serve the society how it should
The first reason is that the adult industry sells an unrealistic fantasy of something as beautiful as sex. Sex is as old as humanity. After all, sex created humanity. And some say that sex sells, even though I question this notion, and so will you when you read the first paragraphs of this article. Due to sex being as old as humanity the adult industry is too ingrained in society. Not all in the industry are mercenary, but the market is set as people are prepared to pay big.

The chief reason is of course money. Human nature gets greedy… And so do people in the adult industry. People go into the adult industry for the money. After all, it’s a well known fact that many people who work in the adult industry earn good money tax free. And what a machine the industry is! And unregulated too! People who go into the adult industry don’t have to study for years. Yet some earn as well as people in the noble professions who had to study for years. So money moves the world – and makes people greedy.

When we have it good, good is never enough
And greed is another major reason. When people get greedy, they want to do less for more. Rates go up, the amount and value of service go down. And that’s where the problem starts and ends around a full circle. Women charge crazy money for no value, in fact for what every human being should get free of charge and what should never be commercialised. Even the richest clients have expenses and therefore finite finances. Unless they have more money than brains they must also budget and mostly can’t afford liaisons with adult “entertainers” often. If the wives don’t give them enough or any sex, the low frequency of men seeing adult entertainers doesn’t solve sexual deprivation.

And the ultimate reason is the mindset. People go into the adult industry with the mindset of counting the money. They don’t go in with the mindset of care, compassion, and treating people as human beings. I’m talking about people who go into the adult industry by choice, not by force. But nonetheless, the mindset is exactly what makes the difference.

Webmasters of adult websites don’t help either
Webmasters of adult websites make the adult industry worse to a very large extent. And they make money from this misery! Why? Because they advertise misleadingly, categorise people inappropriately, advertise virtual sex, webcam shows, and videos. None of it solves sexual deprivation because virtual sex will never be the same as sex in person. Another reason is that being stuck to screens hooked on virtual material isolates people from human contact – and encourages addictions… People usually surf adult sites alone. So how does that solve sexual deprivation when it isolates people? Sexual deprivation can only be solved by having sex in person! Sex on an electronic device won’t replace healing human contact. Electronic sex will only breed and nurture addicted followers who have lost the art of social graces and what it is to be human.

The adult industry could fulfil its role in the society again…
…but every individual involved in it would have to do his and her part to make it work. People who work in it would have to start doing it with care for the human beings to whom they – ironically and paradoxically – purport to sell human connection, intimacy, and what should be the most beautiful act between human beings. The people who finance it should do so with common sense, using the brain when choosing entertainers, and no tolerance for bad performance, scams, and lies. There’re many men who don’t have the heart not to pay for bad service. They say “I just paid her and left”. But by doing so they encourage bad service. One must sometimes be cruel to be kind. That’s life.

Those who make good money from scamming would have to stop. Of course that and none of what I wrote in the previous paragraph will happen because human nature won’t stop being greedy. But if every consumer played his part by buying adult services with common sense and questioning the dubious, scammers would have to stop. And people who have been scammed would have to start using their brains so as not to fall prey again.

Honesty is the best policy. It’s not rocket science, it’s just plain simple honesty. Why do people in the adult industry think that luring buyers by scamming and lying is the way to go? The best business is always done with a clean conscience and a smile on the face and in the heart. The best deals are won by and with honesty. And honesty is also what keeps customers coming back. Scamming is not necessary. And I guarantee you that even if scammers profit from dishonesty, we would all profit much more from honesty.

Consumers and webmasters of adult websites, you have the power to start making changes for the better
The consumer always has the power to keep someone or something (not) existing in the world. The principle is exactly the same as with products. If people want something to be in the world, they buy it. And the reverse applies too. If buyers of adult entertainers and services buy with common sense, buyers will start the circle of improvement. Because if buyers don’t suffer fools, lies, scams, and bad service gladly, workers will have to start being honest and improve their game. And if buyers buy with their heads – inform themselves about who they buy, they won’t finance bad people.

The decent solid sexually frustrated citizen has long lost faith in women who – ironically – purport to fix his frustration. He knows that those women won’t change. So if they won’t, he can. Losing trust is understandable. But not doing anything to make things better doesn’t help him nor anyone either. So you, the buyer for whom the adult industry was created, have the power to start the circle of change for the better. It’s never too late in this case. In fact, the sooner you start, the better. You, dear reader, should be one of those solid sexually frustrated citizens, because I wrote this article for you, not for workers in the adult industry. So I dearly hope that these words inspire you to start…

And if these words do not inspire you to start and you can’t be bothered, then the best way to contribute is not to engage with the adult industry. Not buying what you know that won’t solve your problem. Buying what will, even if it may not always directly have to do with sex. Perhaps getting some good coaching may be exactly the way out of sexual frustration – and many other frustrations! It will certainly not create an addiction, and will get rid of the problems that lead you to buying sex. I cordially invite you to consider or even try it!

There are men who see my three roles of a companion, massage therapist, and coach as conflicting or contradicting instead of a holistic package. But these men don’t look beneath the surface. Here’s why these roles are absolutely not conflicting and happily cohabit in a beautiful package which holistically looks after the professional man working in the corporate world or business. 

I always tell men who present the argument of my three roles conflicting with or contradicting one another that Apple looks after a man’s technological needs, I look after a man’s wellbeing. There’s nothing conflicting nor contradicting about Apple selling us a computer, software, accessories, and cases for it, phones, music players, accessories for music players, and workshops. Apple is one stop for all technological needs of a human being. Hence instead of conflicting or contradicting if offers a whole package.

Companion, massage therapist, men’s coach…
All my roles beautifully tie in with, complement, and enrich each other in the same way. A massage therapist works with energy. A coach also works with energy in relationships with oneself and others. A companion hears about all sorts in conversations with the people whom she accompanies to the most diverse places and settings. The conversations which I have with people when I’m their companion enrich me as a coach. And vice versa – when I use coaching in the conversations to offer people new perspectives and ways to find solutions to things that they’d like to have better.

Energy is everywhere whether we see it or not. Light is energy. Wind is energy, every person has energy. The role of a massage therapist gives me the privilege to get intimate with people on a level which conversations don’t access. This profound level allows me to be attuned to people like no standard coach who doesn’t combine coaching with massage. And also like no massage therapist who doesn’t have training in coaching. Men open up when they relax during massage. And when they open up, they release all sorts of things. As a coach I can help. And there’s a good chance that I’ve heard their plights in conversation with someone whom I accompanied on a date or trip…

Massage enriches health. I coach on health, relationships, work, money, success. Hence I use a lot of knowledge of massage in coaching on health. And vice versa. When a man comes to me for a massage, I gladly offer suggestions, advice, or recommendations of nutrition, fitness, and other aspects of physical and mental health. I wouldn’t do so if I didn’t draw on knowledge and experience as a coach!

How the three roles enrich me – and the men who want me in their lives
Many men, most often strangers, very quickly observe that I’m very astute. The astuteness is due exactly to the complementation of my three roles. A person who massages naked bodies, coaches naked souls, and accompanies [sometimes naked] people who want a spark in life is inevitably far more astute than a person who performs any of these three roles singly.

My role as a coach sharpens my communication and makes me astute to misunderstandings before they happen. I relate to people’s differences better than a person who isn’t a coach. I solve awkward situations, conversations, subjects more elegantly and easily than a person who isn’t a coach. As a companion I gather experiences from all walks of life, which enriches my life and coaching. When a man reveals a subject super sensitive to him, I accept it easily because I’ve most likely heard it a hundred times before…

My roles as a companion and coach teach me to relate well to people of all styles of communication with all types of character. Relating well makes people comfortable with me. And when we’re comfortable with the massage therapist, we’ll find relaxing during a massage easy! And my role as a massage practitioner encourages me to look after my health – practise what I preach – and gather experiences of whether the tips that I share in articles on this page of my site work, what health is like, and the difference between being healthy and not being ill. Of course, I can then happily enrich coaching men on their health with my experience of it.

So finally…

if you have viewed my roles as a companion, massage therapist, and coach as conflicting or contradicting, you’ll hopefully understand why they are indeed the opposite. Why they beautiful complement each other and form a holistic package which no other woman out there offers. And which the people of today’s world desperately need!

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Why is the value of coaching for men who visit adult entertainers so high? And why is it impossible to quantify by a precise figure? Because it is intangible, yet so very tangible in these men’s lives! As value is intangible, it is not easy to grasp. But I’ll do my best to help you do so here… 

Most men visit adult entertainers
because they have a problem – or several problems – in life. Some men will feel affronted when they read these words, but that doesn’t change the truth of the fact. And feeling affronted would be a rich area for some good coaching! Many others will deeply identify with this fact. Look at it this way, dear reader: if a man didn’t have a problem or several problems in life, he wouldn’t have to pay for what he should be able to get naturally free of charge. Paying adult “entertainers” is an artificial state of affairs.

Men are generally not good communicators. I said generally because this doesn’t apply to all men. But since 60% of the world population are generalists and the societal trend is more and more generalist, this statement is very true. When men don’t know how to communicate clearly with themselves, they don’t know how to clearly communicate with others. And when they don’t know how to clearly communicate with others, they have difficulties in relationships, which isolates them. Thus they pay adult “entertainers” to escape the isolation and emptiness in them. But humans are social creatures, and everyone needs company, touch, compassion, comforting, a compliment, romance, to feel useful, a part of something meaningful, to love and be loved. Hence men pay for the illusion of this inclusion, belonging, closeness. And sex is a physicalisation of all that.

But few men are so lucky that the first adult “entertainer” whom they come across will entertain them in the true sense of the word! And most men know this very well indeed. So looking for that one person in life with whom they will feel all that inclusion and closeness becomes a never-ending quest, expenditure, and another task in their busy lives.

Hence the value of coaching for men who visit adult entertainers
is that the coach will be the only person in their lives who will ask them how they are and mean it! And the only person who will listen to their deepest troubles without judging. Coaching became so popular in business because people who direct and lead corporations and companies had one person in their lives who was interested in their troubles and wellbeing. One person whom they could tell what they couldn’t tell colleagues, family members, and the public. It is immensely relieving and liberating to have such person in our lives. Even if we pay that person!

Another value of coaching is that a good coach will always be objective. Colleagues, friends, lovers, and family members are subjective. Hence they don’t make good coaches. Colleagues, friend, lovers, family members are emotionally involved to various extents, but still. A coach is emotionally neutral. Plus the coach has training which enables her to spot patterns in your spoken and body language that help and also hinder you. She can point these patterns out as she has the objective and emotionally neutral view of them. Pointing them out gives you a choice to do something about them. And if you don’t know what to do, the coach can help you find the right thing to do.

Another value of coaching is that the coach will help you find what to do in very different ways than would colleagues, family members, etc. Because the coach has training that the colleagues, family members, etc. do not have.

You will feel an intimate connection in coaching
that you will never feel with an adult “entertainer”. This deeply intimate connection develops due to the fact that the coach won’t judge you and a good coach will be genuinely keen to act in your best interests while an adult “entertainer” will care only about your money. You’ll feel that the coach understands you and is somehow on the same wavelength as you because she will deeply listen and hear you. This is why so many clients of coaching fall in love with their coaches! We all feel good when someone understands us!

A man who looks for sex on “escort” sites is driven by hedonism – pleasure. Coaching will therefore be the last thing on his mind if it even be on his mind at all! Thus some readers may feel resistance while reading this article. But even that resistance is feedback… Well, if you feel that you would strongly benefit, act on the feeling and get coaching. I promise you that it will change your life like no adult “entertainer” ever would, and be less expensive in the long term. Shall we have a conversation?

Because nobody does and because asking questions is important for the benefit of the men who see me. And why are many men shocked and suspicious when I ask many questions at the beginning of our acquaintance? 

Again, because nobody else does.
Women in this industry do not ask questions, hence asking many questions is not the norm. Women in this industry are in it for money. Most make it blatantly obvious so that you don’t have a chance to doubt that fact! So they’ll tell you anything you want to hear to hook your interest and lure you into paying them a visit. These women care about your cash, not about what you want. They are robots who sell intimacy and deliver the opposite in a conveyor belt operation. They care about the numbers, the profits. Never mind the fact that you’re a human being with feelings and desires. So they don’t ask questions about who you are and what you want. Besides, they don’t have the intellectual capacity to ask the right questions. So is it a surprise that someone who asks questions shocks?

Questions about what you want to buy
Here’s an example of what I’m writing about here. Many men relate well to cars, so let’s say that you want to buy a car. You go to a dealer. A poor salesman will spill a list of features and meaningless taglines to you. But the list of features won’t address what you want in and from a car – your preferences. A good salesman will ask questions. About what you want in and from a car. He’ll ask about every detail – the style, colour, features, specs. Then he’ll show you cars that match your preferences as closely as possible. Or if he doesn’t have a car that matches your preferences, he’ll tell you.

When he asks questions about what you want in and from a car, he cares firstly about your preferences and secondly about selling. And you feel that he cares about your preferences first, because there’re more salesmen who care firstly – if not only – about selling… And we all spot them from a mile. The good salesman knows that it pays to care about your preferences because he will far more likely sell you a car that matches your preferences than a car that doesn’t. Logical, isn’t it?

Well, not to every man, as it seems from my years of experience. Albeit my friend is the executive or professional man over 35 who makes informed decisions about what and especially whom he buys, I get calls from all sorts. Bless them all because every man who responds to my listing from the ocean of listings online deserves my appreciation of his interest. But since not every man makes informedchoices about what and especially whom he buys, I’m inspired to shed light on this topic.

So what’s the benefit of me asking many questions?
The benefit is that I find out what you want. And when I know what you want, I can give it to you, which will make you happy. After all, if you are to pay a stranger for a treat to yourself, an experience of a lifetime, an experience that doesn’t happen every day, you should get that, not half of that or something that you didn’t want.

Since a man contacts me for the first time we begin a conversation. I don’t know him, hence I don’t know how he thinks and communicates. So I ask questions to find out – to get to know him. For the sake of both of us. Not all men are clear communicators. And I have to find out where he is on the continuum of clear communication to know how to communicate with him so that we understand each other. Communication builds trust. And isn’t trust super important in contexts like this one?

Experiences that I sell are not standard services.
They’re totally personal and tailored to us – me and the man who is with me. Conversely, your treat to yourself should be a unique totally personal experience which doesn’t happen every day.Nnot a standardized service. You should feel special. You should not feel that the woman who you’re with treats you like every man by rote. Hence think about it logically: don’t unique experiences merit unique questions about what you want to experience? You may have burnt your fingers with women who gave you services, not experiences. Thus you came to seek a unique experience from me. You may have unique requests or ideas of how to spend our time. And if I don’t ask you many questions, how will I know? I don’t read minds. And again, not all men communicate clearly.

I also ask many questions to see whether we’d be a good match if we met.
Money never was my primary motivation for being a companion, masseuse, aromatherapist, photographer, and men’s coach. Hence I don’t place primary importance on profits, the numbers, and hooking men’s interest by lying. I am the light bringer for a reason – to bring light into men’s lives. Light, not more of the dark lies with which the international air space is crowded. I ask men questions to find out whether we would have something in common and be a good match if we met. What’s the point if we’re not to be a good match? If our differences are to be too great to be tolerable? We wouldn’t get on and I wouldn’t take anyone’s money for what didn’t feel right. Men usually come to me after the millionth disappointment, so I wouldn’t want to add a million first.

And last but never least I ask men many questions to find out whether they have integrity, can be trusted, and I’d feel safe and comfortably with them. And so should you, dear reader, ask many questions of every stranger whom you consider letting into life. Because while objects can’t hurt, blackmail, or deceive you, people can! Hence use common sense and give yourself time to get to know the people to whom you want to be close, even if for a short time.

Men who see courtesans usually expect to be intimate with them. Yet why do 99% of men call for intimacy when they have broken up with partners, are frustrated, despondent, or angry with a circumstance?

Intimacy should come from celebration, not despondency, desperation, frustration, or even anger with something or someone. Intimacy should be the most beautiful way in which a man and a woman connect. But 99% of men who call for a courtesan ironically do so not for celebration, but out of loneliness, emptiness, despondency, emotional pain, desperation, or frustration.

Why is this bad?
Because intimacy is good only when people are happy. When you’re despondent, angry, frustrated, or desperate, you’ll bring that energy into the intimacy. Your intimate partner will respond to that energy and you’ll respond to her response… Do you think that intimacy born from bad energy will be good? Exactly the point!

So why do so many men not see this obvious fact?
Because nobody brings this “obvious” fact into their attention. Women who sell sex sell it for money. Money rules their worlds – or the worlds of their traffickers, and the women therefore take whoever comes their way for a buck. They don’t care about you, what you want, how you want to feel on and after a date with them… You’re not a human being with feelings to them. You’re a cash dispenser on legs. So they’ll tell you what you want to hear and hook you to go to them.

But intimacy should be a celebration
…instead of a commercial act in artificial circumstances. Gentlemen, think about it this way: if you have a wife or life partner, you enjoy intimacy with her only when you both are in good mood, calm, and happy. And if you don’t have a life partner but have been on dates, you’ll remember the dates on which you had a good time and if intimacy happened, it was good. If someone asked you to tell them about the best intimate experience in your life, you’d tell them about a memory when you were happy with the lady with whom you shared the happy experience. And that is, again, exactly the point!

Another way to think about why to see courtesans for celebration
…is that it’s exactly the same with massage. When you go for a massage in a hurry, rush, or with trepidation of whether you can trust the masseuse, you won’t relax and derive the benefits. When you look forward to the massage because you know it’ll be great, you’ll relax and derive the benefits. The massage will be a time when you can let go of all problems, relax, go into a light trance, or even fall asleep. And when you send the energy that you trust the masseuse, she’ll pick the energy up and give you even more back. When massage is a celebration, it really is a treat for every man to look forward to. And it really is better than artificial sex with strangers. The man realizes its value, benefits, and feel-good factor. And thus he’s happy to pay for it. He sees the money as well spent.

But what of a man who calls courtesans when he’s angry with something, frustrated, or worse still, drunk or drugged? Does he really think that he will enjoy intimacy? Every action has at least one consequence. So if that’s the case, what energy does such a man set for the act of intimacy? How does he expect the woman to respond? If the woman is motivated only by money, she doesn’t care and the act of intimacy will be mechanical and soulless anyway. In that case what’s the point in paying for something that such unhappy man will only go through the motions – if he even remembers the next day that he did so?

See courtesans for celebration, get coaching for desperation
If you’ve so far always called courtesans, escorts, callgirl, hooker, or an adult entertainer for intimacy out of desperation or for another negative reason, try the opposite approach. Then you’ll honour the point of paying for what you don’t get every day.

If you use the right tool for a job, you’ll do the job well. See courtesans for celebration of life, beauty, human connection, and intimacy if that’s what you want. Get coaching for frustrations, dealing with breakups, despondency, desperation, and anger. I can do either. Which one do you want?

The society will continue to go digital. People buy even human connection digitally nowadays. And will continue to do so even more. But isn’t it ironic? That people want to connect with another human being, yet don’t even want to talk to her before they buy her? Here’s why I’ll always want to do things soul to soul. Why I don’t communicate with strangers by text messages. 

Text messages are the wrong tool for connecting with strangers
It is not for nothing that people have bought human connection for centuries. And I mean human connection, not sex in disguise of human connection. Buying sex is another matter even though human connection can indeed include sex. After all, sex is the physicalization of the abstract intangiblehuman connection. But I mean human connection – the company of and connecting with another human being.

Think about it – if we want to connect with another human being, we have to talk to them. I described the essence of this argument in this article. We have to talk to the human being to see whether we will gel, click, connect. Whether we will spark that spark which will draw us to meeting. And whether there is potential for us to have a good time. But how can we know whether we will connect if we don’t talk?

Text messages are not talking. They’re writing.
The problem with writing is that it is widely open to interpretation. One statement can mean different things to different people as we all think differently and make different meaning of ‘the same’ statement. Plus we don’t hear the voice nor feel the breath and energy of our correspondent. The voice, breath, pauses, and energy are irreplaceable because they tell a lot about a person. And they tell a lot to our intuition. When we talk to someone, we sense the meaning of what they tell us. We sense whether the person is drunk, drugged, sincere, hesitant, or saying something out of politeness or obligation with what s/he doesn’t earnestly agree. These messages are critical when you’re getting to know a stranger – especially a stranger whom you’re planning to give time, money, energy, and trust to celebrate your time off and the finer moments in life with.

Text messages can be dangerous
This applies more from my point of view than from yours. Because when you respond to my ad by a text message, you’re you. But when I get the text message, I don’t know that you’re you. I cannot know because anyone can send a text message. Without hearing your voice I have no way of knowing that you’re you. Some men lend their phones to their family members. So the text message in response to my ad could come from a child. Or a vengeful wife or partner. The only way for me to know is to talk to the writer.

And if I do things ethically and morally, I feel responsibility to check out whether you’re you and not your child who borrowed your phone! Or your vengeful wife or partner. After all, if I think highly of discretion, should I not protect yours as much as I can? It costs nothing to do so and makes the world better for you, me, and your family.

Text messages are often scams
Another thing in today’s world full of creative people is that a lot of creativity goes into scams. People want easy money for no work, so create scams. One way to fight them is to play a clean honest game, because scammers operate on dishonesty. So to ensure that I’m dealing with a genuine enquirer I prefer to call and talk to the person. And it works the other way around. After all, anyone can post an ad and forget about it over time as I described in this article. So how do you know whether the advertiser hasn’t changed phone number? Call her instead of sending a text message. There will never be a replacement for voice to voice, soul to soul, person to person contact. Especially and doubly so if your goal is to establish a romantic relationship with the stranger.

Have you burnt your fingers?
Have you been scammed? Or encountered a fake? That’s because you made some strategic mistake. Perhaps one of these three. Or the one of communicating with strangers by text message and not hearing their voice. As a coach who coaches men not to make basic mistakes I can help you find out what you do wrongly and can do better. Would you like to talk?

Conversations are at the centre of a man’s satisfaction on a date with a companion. They are also at the centre of satisfying massage if men want regular massages. And they are intimacy. But how many men and women who allegedly buy and sell connection and intimacy have conversations? Why are conversations important for both parties? 

Conversations connect
Men have companions, see courtesans, and pay other women for other things because they want to connect with another human being. Connection is abstract and intangible, so we can’t touch and handle it. Since we humans deal better with tangible things, we crave to make connections tangible. The stronger the connection, the more pleasant its physicalization. The stronger a connection we feel to another human being, the better the quality of our friendship, collaboration, or relationship with them will be. If the relationship is intimate, the stronger the connection, the better and more passionate the intimacy will be. Connection between people always reflects in the bedroom.

Conversations bring strangers to acquaintance
Once two strangers connect, conversations make them get to know each other. The parties find out what makes them tick. What they like and dislike. And what they have in common and different. All this is important for a man who is choosing a companion for regular dates or a masseuse for regular treatments. If the two people don’t converse, how can they connect? How can they know what they want from each other?

Conversations make things clear
And thus we enter the realm of clarity. I wrote here what happens when men have unrealistic expectations of their companions, mistresses, courtesans, masseuses, or other women whom they see or want to see. Since every person is different and comes from a different background with a different story and model of the world, it is important to have conversations about what two people expect from each other.

It is important to clarify words, phrases, definitions, concepts, where, when, what, how, for how much, and with or without whom two people will and will not do. If you’re don’t have those things clear, misunderstandings will easily arise and your date or massage can end bitterly. There’s no need for it if you converse with the women whose time, massage, or whatever else you are to buy. And gentlemen, since you find the women whom you like, you’re responsible for starting the connection.

Conversations build trust
If this point seems obvious at a glance, why do so many women refuse to even speak to men who call them? Why do these women divert conversations to a collection of sentences and phrases by SMS? And even advertise that they only communicate by SMS? Why don’t men want to know more about the woman whose ad they just called than her location, availability, and rates? Isn’t it counterintuitive that these parties buy and sell connection, yet don’t want to connect? If you are a man who called a woman’s ad and don’t converse with her, how can you trust her? After all, men get scammed by these women and their traffickers every day around the world. So if you don’t connect, get to know, and make things clear with the women you want to see, how can you know what you’re going into?

Besides, isn’t trust a foundation of good quality intimacy? Can you be intimate and truly relax with someone whom you don’t trust? You don’t have to love your intimate partner. But you have to trust her. And if you don’t converse, you can’t trust. Simple as that.

…they certainly enrich
All the articles on this blog arose exactly from conversations. Strangers, lifelong friends, and everyone in-between inspired me through the conversations I had with them. I always thought that if one man sees a certain topic as valuable, so will many other men around the world. So I started sharing my experiences from these conversations. And periodically add snippets to articles where appropriate. I learnt an immense amount from conversations with men of many cultures, roles, professionals, etc. Every person has a different story, hence different lessons to teach – and learn. Conversations are a gift.

…and also inspire
Many an idea turned into big business, likewise many a piece of art was created from inspiration in conversations. Gentlemen, it really pays to invest in conversations as you never know what a good conversation with the woman whose ad you called may inspire. You might come upon a fantastic plan for how to spend the moments with the woman whom you by now hopefully know better, have clear boundaries with, feel that you can trust, and feel enriched by.

Conversation make intimacy
Men who have companions or mistresses have them because they want to connect with another human being. Conversations make intimacy before it gets physical. Think about it: once you get to know your partner, have clarity in affairs, feel safe to trust her, perhaps even feel enriched and inspired by her, intimacy is born. And then you feel the desire to physicalize it.

A man should always leave a date with a companion inspired just like a man should always leave a massage rejuvenated. So if conversations with the women with whom you want to relax and have a good time aren’t your habit, try them from the next call. Those who keep in touch with me appreciate the benefit of conversations. And so can you!