Many people from strangers to yearslong friends ask me to send them pictures of me. I always say no. And here’s why.
To send pictures can be a dangerous weapon

You have certainly come across numerous stories about celebrities who took intimate pictures of each other when things went well between them and used them against each other when things capsized. This alone highlights the principle that once we release our pictures into another person’s hands, we’ve lost control of them forever. Words are unreliable. People are fickle. Anyone can say that he wants our pictures only for his personal enjoyment. But people will say what they think we want to hear when they want to achieve their goal… That’s human nature. Besides, if we took the premise that someone wanted to use our pictures for his personal enjoyment, why should our pictures serve as someone’s stimulation for [especially sexual] gratification?
Pictures can be weapons of identity

Girls and women who come to the west from poor(er) countries to sell sex for x years with the goal of taking their earnings home and living like queens on them think nothing of taunting pictures of their naked beings all over the net because they have nothing to fear. They know nobody in the western countries and nobody knows them. Hence they can afford to show their private parts and faces in one picture. They cover themselves with stage names and have nothing to lose. Plus they know that after a time they’ll disappear anyway.

But people who are lawful citizens of a country and more serious about contributing to its economy for more than x years have things to lose. I am one of them. Plus I’m involved in other fields, hence the risk of me releasing pictures into the big wide world is higher. After all, one never knows what sites people I collaborate with in other fields surf in their private time! I can’t afford the risk of being spotted…
Separate journeys, conflict of interest

One of my roles is that of a commercial model. Hence I have heard men ask what’s the problem with sending them pictures of me when I’m a model. The problem is that I keep modelling and the roles I state on this site separate. If I send pictures of me to another person, I lose control of what the person will do with the pictures. He might post them on sites about which I don’t know – and even take credit for them! And the nature of those sites might damage my brand, public image, and the potential to be hired. He might sell them. Or he might even manipulate them to change my appearance to an unflattering one…

And since I never know what sites scouts for commercial models surf, I again don’t know who might see my [potentially hideously altered] pictures where… Talent scouts have good memories for faces. It would be easy to recognize me in pictures with different themes. People quickly put two and two together… which could damage my path in the world of modelling. Again, I can’t afford to take the risk.
Pictures can be subjects of blackmail

Pictures can be subjects of blackmail the same way as they can be weapons of identity. This is the absolutely worst case scenario and happens seldom. But it happens. Men who see high end courtesans usually have far more to lose than the courtesans, but if a man wanted to avenge me for some innocent misunderstanding, he could do it with my pictures. Hence keeping my pictures as much under my control as I can is always a good idea.
To send pictures can make copying easy for uncreative copycats

If you want to know how I create the pictures that you see on this site, you can learn here. The effort that goes into creating them is another good reason why I won’t send anyone pictures of me. If good artists copy and great artists steal, and if anyone with even a smartphone camera can call himself an artist these days, why should I make it easy for people who have photography as a hobby to copy the concepts in my pictures? After all, the concepts were what attracted many strangers, now lifelong friends, and perhaps even you to my site because they were different from the rest. The different stands out. The different is what you notice. So if I made it easy for others to copy my concepts, I’d be killing my differentiation. Would that be wise?
Seeing too much kills the mystery and anticipation

The women who sell sex today seem to think that the more of their naked beings they exhibit on the worldwide web, the better for their profits. But is that so? Yes, there are men who are addicted to naked pictures online. And women who post them only feed these men’s misfortune. One form of bringing light to men’s lives is to help them out of addictions, not to feed addictions! Another reason is that I don’t sell sex.

Looking at pictures online also never guarantees that the men will go see the women who post them. And then there’re men on the other end of the continuum – men who get attracted by what they don’t see, not by what they see. Sex certainly sells. But this slogan has a subtly different meaning. Eroticism always has been and will be in what we don’t see. Erotic pictures are erotic exactly due to an element of mystery, guessing, and anticipation of what is there where we don’t see…. So showing everything in bright lights kills the mystery, thus takes the eroticism out of the picture. All that’s left is a shallow picture of a naked woman. That’s hardly a big deal since the internet is full of them…
Sending pictures and videos online feeds addictions of the addicted

Another important reason why I never send pictures and don’t share videos of me online is that this material feeds the addictions of men who are addicted to viewing them. Rest assured that there’re millions of unhappy unfulfilled men who sit glued to the computers, phones, or tablets viewing pictures and videos of prostitutes, porn, and other women. As a coach who helps men OUT of addictions I’d deeply contradict my mission if I shared pictures and videos of my naked self to FEED men’s addictions, wouldn’t I?
Would you feel comfortable to send pictures of you?

So, gentlemen, that’s it. If this hasn’t sufficiently answered the question of whether I’d send you pictures of me before you ask, nothing will. My lifelong friends and supporters know well that me not sending them pictures of me is never personal. If I set a rule, it’s credible and ethical if I apply it to everyone fairly. If I don’t apply the rule equally, I’ll weaken its potency and thus make a mockery of it. After all, my lifelong friends and supporters know what I look like. And as I state on the page that displays my pictures, anticipation is the fuel of desire.

Most men of a certain calibre who have plenty to lose will agree with why sending pictures of naked nature around the world is risky. They certainly wouldn’t feel comfortably sending pictures of themselves for exactly the reasons stated here. What do you say?

While most women who usually sell different things from what I do have pictures on their sites from one room in one outfit in several poses, I’m proud to have differentiated myself on this point from the start. But how much effort goes into the pictures that you see on my site?

Hire higher
I have the advantage of contributing to the world in the role of a commercial model. This, of course, makes it easier for me to obtain pictures from different locations and sceneries. But still, I firstly have to get hired for an assignment! That’s not an easy feat in a world where every other citizen does what I do. Models of all shapes, sizes, ages, and looks are ten a penny, or dime a dozen in every city of every country. So brands or individuals who need pictures will hire me only if I have exactly the look they need.

Getting to the scene
Once I’m hired, I have to get to the location of the assignment. Do you think brands will pay for models’ traveling? They will not 9 out of 10 times. Time is money. [See this and this.] And if the assignment is in another city or country, my time starts ticking from the moment when I learnt that someone hired me. I have to plan my schedule, prepare things I’ll need for the trip, sometimes even organize my transport, get there, and do 100 other preparations for the shoot. This is another reason why I require notice to see you!

Shooting the pictures
The shoot itself will, of course, take time. Some shoots take an hour, others two, three, even four. I’ve been on a nine-hour shoot. And modelling is not as glamorous a job as the media portray to the members of the general public. Sometimes I must model in unpleasant weather, places that aren’t comfortable or easy to reach, and hold difficult poses. It all requires fitness, concentration, determination, and simply love of life and art – and the men of this world whom I think of when shooting. I motivate myself to get through the discomforts by the thoughts of hearing and reading statements of admiration. And that’s good enough. After all, if I didn’t love what I do in life, why would I even live, let alone do it?

1000 daily things that the pictures don’t show
The creative process doesn’t end at the end of the photoshoot. When I get the pictures from the photographers, I sort and name them. Then I choose one picture from each shoot from which I have permission to use pictures for the next batch on my site. I blur the face on and copyright mark each picture. Then I upload and optimize the pictures for search engines. And finally I attach each picture to the Who page before midnight of the day on which the new pictures will be released.

And here endeth the path of the pictures that you see on this site. Did the number of steps in the process of their creation surprise you? Maybe. But I view it all as labour of love and a little contribution of light to the lives of men who will enjoy looking at them. I could easily take the easy path that all other women take – shoot x pictures in the same room and outfit in different poses. But that wouldn’t fulfill me. I thrive on being different. And the harder way in life is always the more rewarding. What do you think? Tell me. 

Time, money, and energy are our most valuable resources. I have written how men can always have enough money for their pleasures. So doesn’t it make sense to enrich the subject by writing about how men can always have enough time for their pleasures?

Time = men’s most frequent objection to pleasures
Time flies fast. And we all want to squeeze as much as possible into the limited time we have on this planet. 50% of men’s approach to including pleasures in their busy lives is opportunistic. And 50% very consciously schedule pleasures. Where opportunity doesn’t work planning always does. We make time for what we want to make time for. Hence isn’t it ironic that not having enough time for pleasures is men’s number one objection? Pleasure is as important in our lives as is work, food, health. Pleasure is a component of health. Men who don’t see this fact therefore don’t see it at their peril.

And I wrote this article exactly for those men. They’ll typically say “I’ll let you know”, “I’ll see what I can do”, or “I’ll try” to schedule pleasures into my life. But this strategy clearly doesn’t and will never work. And why should we continue doing more of what doesn’t work? Years will pass and we’ll be depriving ourselves of good times in life. On the other side of the continuum there’s the argument that no matter how busy we are, we always find time for what we want to find it for. So this points to the fact that the solution is in changing your strategy. From my experience as a men’s coach and companion for many years… 

the best strategy is to:
pick a time far enough ahead on the calendar that there isn’t anything else around it yet
commit to it and treat it as booked solid no matter what comes up near it
think of it the same way as you’d think of a doctor’s appointment. 
The benefit of this strategy is that:
Both of us will have time and no excuses to prepare for it 
Both of us will have something and someone to look forward to
Treats and good times on the horizon certainly give us motivation to work, be good people, and do well
Remind us that life is beautiful and give us energy and something to look forward to. 
So are you willing to try this strategy? If you find it successful, you can apply it to other aspects of life and offer it to colleagues and also your near and dear who always have issues with timekeeping. Or are you one of the men who always make enough time for their pleasures? What can you add to this article? Inspire me so that I can inspire others. 

Discretion: every man who sees companions, courtesans, or has a mistress wants it. Even men who go for genuine medical massages want discretion! And many women promise it. But how does discretion reflect itself in the little details that men and women play out in daily lives and communications? Are people really as discreet as they think they are? What innocent acts can easily betray discretion? You may well be surprised at what useful pearls you will pick up from this article.

Discretion in communication online
Communication by email and on social media is very prone to inadvertent betrayal of discretion. Gentlemen, you are as responsible for keeping communication online discreet as is the companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse. If you want to have a companion, mistress, courtesan, or massages in full privacy, you’re fully responsible for protecting yourselves, your family members who certainly don’t deserve to be hurt, and yes, even the involved woman. Therefore give her an email address to which only you have access. Then your family members won’t find your correspondence. It’s easy enough to create a free email account. And before you give a companion or masseuse your work email address, think who has access to it. Does your PA or secretary? If yes, set up a free email account on proton mail and you’ll have no problem.

And when you have given your companion or masseuse an email address that is safe, turn off notifications on your computers, smart phones, or tablets which will show a snippet of a new message on the screen before you unlock the device. This is one of the most inadvertent actions that can easily betray discretion. If your phone gets into the hands of a family member who sees a snippet of a new message from your companion or even masseuse, you’ll be in trouble. And the same applies to WhatsApp and all other chat apps on which you communicate. Turn off all notifications from these apps which will show new messages on your computer, phone, or tablet screens before you unlock the devices.

Another creative solution is to redirect sensitive content to your junk mail. If you do this, then of course you must remember to check the junk mail! Simply treat the spam box as a second inbox. Voila – problem solved. You’ll have everything under the roof of one account, and your secrets will be well hidden.

Discretion online goes even further – be careful!
In today’s world of cloud technology many folks swear by the convenience of cloud backups. If you’re one of them, remember that this can also work against you. If you have all conversations on SMS, WhatsApp, and other apps set to be backed up on cloud, then do what you can to prevent your family members’ access to them, or they may see your conversations too!

Another point closely connected to this is that cloud technology enables you to see conversations by SMS, on WhatsApp, or other apps on any or all of your devices. Few of you will carry all devices with you at all times. And the rest of you who don’t are exposing yourselves to danger, because you can’t control who may see your conversations when notifications about new messages arrive on the devices which you don’t have with you!

Discretion in communication on social media
If you don’t think carefully, you can betray yourself to even more people on social media, because your communication will be visible to far more people than those who have access to your phone, tablet, or email account. One way to bypass this issue is to create a nondescriptive handle on all social media. A handle which won’t contain your name nor otherwise hint at your identity. And then, of course, all that I wrote in the previous paragraphs will also apply for the life of your affairs of the heart or health.

Another way, especially if you have enjoyed solid presence on social media under your name for years, is to manage discretion with the settings on each social medium. People who complain that they have no privacy online complain wrongly, because they have forgotten that they have full control over when and how often they post what and who will see it. Every social medium tells users that it’s up to them what they share with whom. It pays huge dividends to educate yourself about how each social medium works, what settings it offers, and how the settings can work to your benefit.

How to do it?
You can set that only you will see who your friends are on Facebook. You can set exactly who will see which parts of your profile on LinkedIn. And you can make your tweets protected by a password. Then people who will want to read them will have to request the password from you. You don’t have to post on my timeline on Facebook so that all my friends will see your comment and name. After all, you don’t know who my friends are, thus can you afford to risk that some of them recognize you? 

Plus your comment wouldn’t be discreet if all my friends, and possibly even the public, might read it! You can send me a private message instead. Then only I will see the message. You can do the same on LinkedIn. Be even more careful about posting comment on Twitter if you have an account in your name! Again, send a private message instead of tweeting at my tweets. Only I will read the private message. Hence the reason why it’s called private.

…and in communication by phone
Yes, men can be good communicators too! And if you’re not, this area of discretion will certainly challenge you to learn to be! Start by telling me whether it’s safe to send SMS, WhatsApp messages, etc. If I know, I will respect your preferences. If I don’t, I’m disrespectful. This applies to every companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse you see. If you don’t tell me these things, I won’t be able to read them from your mind. Step two is to store me in the contacts on your phone under a name which you’ll know what means, but your family members won’t. You don’t have to store me under my name. You could even store me under a man’s name. As long as you know that the name represents me, that’s what matters.

Tip No. 2: always delete your conversation with the companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse after you finish it. You never know whether a family member hasn’t figured out the password of your device… And even going for medical massage can be mistaken for other things in a world where people hijack words and turn them into meaning what they don’t…

Discretion in communication offline
Now imagine that you call me to massage you at a hotel. The world doesn’t know that I’m coming to massage you. Its good members will think that I’m coming to do something else. If you’re a regular guest at the hotel, be careful about giving me a false name! You never know whether an overactive concierge won’t question me. This will appear as indiscreet toward me, i.e. not your problem at first. But if I can’t get to you because of how the situation has developed, what to do? You’ll have to come downstairs eventually…

It really doesn’t pay to hide. Honesty is always the best policy. Plus if you’re honest with me, I have no reason not to be honest with you. Honesty breeds honesty and mutual trust. Isn’t that what affairs of the heart should be based on? Or can you have an affair of the heart with a woman you don’t trust? Certainly food for thought, isn’t it? And the same applies to the woman to whom you regularly go for massages. You have to trust her to relax during the massage. 

Another setting – would you greet and stop to talk to me in the street if you knew 100% that it was me? Would that be discreet or indiscreet? After all, you never know who can see you where… You could be seen by the most unexpected people in the most unexpected places. It has happened to me and many other citizens of this planet. It could happen to you… After all, if anyone asked you who I was, you could say that I was a colleague, acquaintance from work or social network that you belong to, or the neighbourhood, or even a complete stranger. Judge for yourself… and have a cover story ready.

Indiscretion?
How else could you be indiscreet? Or has a companion, courtesan, mistress, or even masseuse been indiscrete to you? I feel that this article is unfinished business – work in progress. I’m sure I’ll add to it when life experience inspires me. And you can also help me! Share your thoughts. I’ll treat them with the utmost discretion!

Getting a companion for international travel needs consideration! It is marvellous for your pleasure and convenience, but…. You should definitely consider these things before you hire a companion for international travel to or with you: 

it is possible to calculate travel expenses exactly. But when things go wrong en route, your companion could run out of money. While she travels to and from you, the issue of money becomes yours. Yes, while she travels from you too, because if you didn’t call her out to you, she wouldn’t travel back from you! This is why you pay her round trip travel expenses.
Did you hire the companion for a certain hour in your packed schedule? A lot can go wrong during intercity, interstate, or international travel. It takes only one means of transport to have a delay by a few minutes and the whole chain of events could suffer. And what if something goes seriously wrong? What if there is a power cut to parts of a country involved in the journey? 
What’s your plan B for the worst case scenario? Will you shorten your time with the companion? Or will you pay her for her time which you didn’t enjoy with her, but for which she traveled to you? Or will you make yourself late for the next item on your schedule?
Time is also a factor. You’ll be unrealistic if you think that you can hire a companion for international travel to or with you at a short notice. Bear in mind that she needs to organize her schedule, transport, and pack. Every action takes time. What if the flight nearest to your chosen meeting time isn’t available? Account for that. Plan forward. I require at least 168 hours’ [7 days’]notice for national and international travel. 
To be realistic…
Of course, I’ve presented the worst-case scenarios to clearly put the point across. Power cuts to parts of countries on your companion’s journey are not common. But saying that, the infrastructure in various countries will vary too. Is that another factor to take into account which could add to the complications of hiring a companion for international travel?

And how do you know if you will get along with the companion?
This is the first and absolutely most important factor to consider. That is why I always advise every man of this world to 1. know crystal clearly who and what he wants 2. do thorough research on the woman who catches his interest, and 3. correspond with her for as long as it takes him to form solid judgement about whether he will get along with her before he hires her for intercity, national, or international travel.

Or is getting a companion for international travel worth bothering with?
Hence is hiring a companion for international travel really worth the trouble if it could involve so many unpredictable factors? Or are these unpredictable factors exactly why most women out there only pretend to tour to make themselves look important and most men will happily opt for a downmarket nearby establishment? You, dear reader, will find the answers. Men who have always sought women who call themselves companions but are not will of course opt for the cheap local fix.

But I wrote this article from the perspective of an operator in the market where people hire companions in the true sense of the word. If we really want something, we’ll travel the world to get it. And our desire to get it will happily find a way to accommodate all the unpredictable factors that hiring a companion for international travel may involve. Is there anything to add? Tell me what you think!

In this article I’ll tell you why so many people use the word mature outdatedly when they relate it purely to age. Especially in the context of sorting companions, courtesans, models, escorts, etc. by age. And why its outdated usage is conventionalized so deeply that nobody questions it when surfing the net for a companion or a woman in another role. So if you’re now curious and want to be more mature about being mature, …
Now too young

The conventional thinking in the past was that being a companion, escort, or courtesan was a young girl’s game, similarly to modelling. But in fact companions, escorts, and courtesans start being interesting at 40 and the best ones are the oldest ones! They are the best because being mature comes with age and is a measure of adulthood, emotional intelligence, wisdom, insight, and a certain gravitas. Now even models and women who aren’t courtesans but purport to be them occur at every age….

Hence if we connect being mature purely to age, considering that the life expectancy of people around the world is rising and people living to their mid 90s and even past 100 is now common, calling a woman mature at 40 years of her age is ridiculous. If we take the age of 95 as a frequently seen age when people die nowadays – and remember that women generally live longer than men, 40 is not even halfway through life. Of course, a woman at 40 could be mature or immature in all other senses of the word! Hence I started this paragraph with saying ‘if we connect being mature purely to age’.

So if webmasters of directories and independent women market themselves as mature already at ages sometimes even younger than 40, what will they call them(selves) at and after 55? The problem in the western society is wide misuse and interchange of words due to people not knowing what words mean. Someone starts using a word because it sounds good and people follow without questioning it. Sad indeed, especially in today’s age of information and thinking.
Mature – age vs. intellect

‘Maturity also means an advanced stage of mental, intellectual, and emotional development. Hence having reached maturity in the mind, thinking, life experience. And I touched on this in the second paragraph too. Yes, a 40 year-old woman will have maturity as against a 20 years-young. But a 55 year-old woman will be more mature even in this sense than a 40 year-old. So where are we? Back to the point I raised in the first paragraph? Do you know people in their 80s who ‘never grew up’? Does that make them mature? Or immature?

I orient this article at relating being mature purely to age because webmasters of escort directories do that too. They logically have no choice, because they can’t know how mature in every other sense of the word the women who advertise on their directories are. Thus webmasters must classify advertisers somehow. And so the man looking for a companion on directories will automatically go by the woman’s age. The hidden assumption is that maturity comes with age. A 20 years-young will be less mature than a 45 year-old.
The most words, the least mature usage of them

The English language has the highest number of words of all languages. And I heard somewhere years ago that 4,000 words came into the English language every day! If we go with this postulate, why don’t we brainstorm for a far more appropriate term for the current label ‘mature’ as a marker of age? The appropriate scale of labeling women’s age groups could be:

18 – 30 = young

30 – 60 – middle-aged

60+ = mature.

Is there anything wrong with the term ‘middle-aged’? Not at all. It occupies the second third of life if we divide life into roughly equal thirds of 30 – 60 – 90. Hence it accurately describes the window of life which it denotes. It’s not offensive. And it’s clear and concise. So why not adopt it? Many men say that they find the term ‘mature’ more attractive than ‘middle-aged’ in connection with a woman. Fair point. But if you are one of them, read this paragraph again…

What do you think? Tell me.

If you’re a seasoned recipient of massage, you may strongly prefer getting it on a massage table – or not. If you’re a man who stumbled across my blog and immersed himself in its pearls of wisdom, I’ll tell you the pros and cons of massage tables. And which option you’d get if you came for a massage to me. 

The only pro of massage tables
that I see is not for you, but for the masseuse. If it’s for you too, then very indirectly. Only in the sense that if the masseuse is 100% comfortable while massaging you, she’ll transfer her comfort and well grounded energy to you through her touch. And that will enhance the healing effect of the massage. But I said indirectly. And if you ever get to know me, you’ll find out that I don’t waste words. The pro of massage tables is very definitely for the therapist. Massage tables were invented to help the masseuse keep a straight back and be able to walk around you for easy access to every part of your body. Her straight back will prevent pain in it, thus enhance her comfort…. And enable solid pressure in certain movements during the massage. But that’s about it.

I and my friends who have been on them find massage tables immensely uncomfortable because: 

they’re too narrow, which makes you have to lie very still and constrainedly in order not to destabilize the table. The masseuse’s movements and mainly pressures destabilize it enough, let alone you wanting to move a limb!
they’re not rock-solidly stable. That induces a feeling of the possibility of falling, and even though falling is highly unlikely, emotions aren’t logical, and having that worry at the back of the mind is not exactly conducive to relaxation.
the massage tables that have a hole for the face are the worst, because gravity does its magic whether we like it or not and after a while of motionless lying your face will feel like wanting to be sucked out through the hole, which can be painful. A massage is to induce relaxation and destroy, not create pain!
Massaging on the bed
is not good either. This is because the mattress absorbs most of the pressure of massage movements that are to compress the deep tissues to stimulate an influx of blood and circulation into them. Thus the only option that remains and I find the best by far is to massage on a special massage and physio mat on the floor. Can you deduce why? If not, never mind. You can always ask me.